The other day a news item caught our attention.
It was about the world’s oldest person, a woman in Spain named Maria Branyas Morera. She died two weeks ago at age 117.
The attention-getter: Maria, said the article, once told the Guinness World Records website she believed her longevity stemmed from “order, tranquility, good connection with family and friends, contact with nature, emotional stability, no worries, no regrets, lots of positivity, and staying away from toxic people.”
Toxic people?
What are they? And what do we do when faced with that? (Not all disputes, remember, are because you’re dealing with someone who is toxic.)
Do we stop loving such people?
Absolutely not. When we don’t love, we’re the ones with poison. “Toxic” or even demonized, we are to love everyone.
Does it mean completely separating ourselves from folks?
It means doing what the Holy Spirit guides us in doing.
In some cases, that may be in doing what is suggested and what Maria apparently practiced: if not departing from such folks, at least, if folks don’t change, setting boundaries.
We asked ChatGPT (and after reading its answer, wondered if “demonized” might also be an adjective).
CHATGPT:
“A ‘toxic person’ refers to an individual whose behavior is consistently negative, damaging, or harmful to others around them. This term is often used in social, professional, and familial contexts to describe those whose influence leads to unhealthy environments. This essay will explore the characteristics of toxic individuals, their impact on others, and strategies for managing relationships with them.
Characteristics of a Toxic Person
“Toxic individuals can manifest a range of behaviors, but some common traits include:
- Manipulation: They often use manipulative tactics to control or influence others for their benefit. This can involve guilt-tripping, gaslighting, or exploiting others’ vulnerabilities.
- Lack of Empathy: Toxic people may show a consistent disregard for the feelings and well-being of others. They often prioritize their needs and feelings over those of others, leading to selfish or inconsiderate actions.
- Chronic Negativity: They tend to spread negativity and often see the worst in situations and people. This constant pessimism can drain the energy and morale of those around them.
- Criticism and Blame: Toxic individuals frequently criticize others and refuse to acknowledge their own faults. They may also shift blame to others to avoid taking responsibility for their actions.
- Controlling Behavior: They may strive to control situations and people excessively, often feeling threatened by others’ independence or success.”
Continues ChatGPT:
Impact on Others
“The presence of a toxic person in one’s life can have profound psychological and emotional effects:
- Stress and Anxiety: Regular interactions with a toxic individual can lead to increased stress, anxiety, and even depression among those around them.
- Low Self-Esteem: Constant criticism and manipulation can undermine individuals’ confidence and self-worth.
- Damaged Relationships: Toxic behaviors can strain or destroy relationships, causing isolation and conflict within groups.
- Decreased Productivity: In professional settings, a toxic person can hamper teamwork and decrease overall productivity through conflict and stress.
Managing Relationships with Toxic People
“Dealing with toxic individuals requires careful strategy and often, personal strength:
- Setting Boundaries: It’s crucial to establish firm boundaries to protect oneself from the negative effects of toxic behavior. This might involve limiting contact or clearly communicating what behaviors are not acceptable.
- Seeking Support: Talking to friends, family, or professionals can provide guidance and emotional support when dealing with toxic individuals.
- Focusing on Self-Care: Engaging in activities that promote well-being and maintaining a healthy lifestyle can help mitigate the stress associated with toxic relationships.
- Professional Intervention: In some cases, particularly in the workplace, it may be necessary to involve human resources or other authorities to address the toxic behavior.
- Disengagement: When possible, disengaging from the toxic person can be the healthiest option, allowing one to focus on more positive relationships and experiences.
“In conclusion, a toxic person is characterized by behaviors that are harmful and damaging to others. Understanding these traits and the impact they have can empower individuals to manage these relationships effectively. By setting boundaries, seeking support, and prioritizing self-care, one can mitigate the negative effects posed by toxic individuals and foster a healthier, more supportive social environment.”
Let us add: cast out spirits; pray.
Whatever the cause, prayer with love—everyone!—is always the key aid.